Mental Health

Be More Codependant

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There’s a certain type of client who comes to me with a very specific issue they wish to resolve.

Co-dependency.

The image these clients present to the world is a passive one, but that’s far from the truth. Their need to be less dependent is usually linked to just one person or one relationship but what surprises them is my response to their ‘problem’, which goes something like this:

“What I really want is for you to become dependent on way more people”.

This sounds at odds with our individualistic, egocentric culture but let’s take a walk back in time.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Acceptance (or the Art of Loving Our Imperfect Selves)

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All due respect to Elton John, but I’ve found acceptance—not ‘sorry’—seems to be the hardest word.

We crave it on an almost cellular level—in fact, our very existence was once tied to acceptance from our tribe. Today, we seek it all the wrong places from the size of our paycheck to our number of “likes” on Facebook. We search for it from strangers and spouses alike. We try to fill our acceptance vacuum with everything from boxed wine and Netflix to spin class and Xanax.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Nicole’s 4 Steps To Finding Your Life’s Flavor

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One of the biggest tricks to plugging in and thinking possible is finding your flavor.

Why do I use the word “flavor”? Because I want to help you to get you out of your head and into your heart and soul. So much of our programming has to do with thinking. And thinking is great! For some things. We need our thinking brain for math and science and maps and all kinds of other logic-based reasoning, but what we know about happiness is that it is NOT one size fits all principle.  There is no one correct solution for everyone, the way there might be to a math or science problem. Therefore thinking only is not the sole key toward achieving happiness. We must also include the heart.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Helplessness – Then the Call to Action

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How do you feel when someone comes to you with pain…emotional or otherwise? What happens in your body? What do you want to do? What do you want to say? 

Now picture when you are in pain…emotional or otherwise, what is that you want? What is it that you most want people to say or do?

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Finding the Gold In Imperfection

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Awhile ago my husband and I went to go see the unique and iconic singer Sia.  She was amazing and we thoroughly enjoyed the show. 

She never took center stage, instead choosing to stand off to the side. Her face was never visible.  She stayed hidden behind her iconic wig. On center stage were her amazing dancers and actors and her full, beautiful voice filled the space around us. It was a full production. Yet she never placed herself at the center of it all.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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We Can Walk Through It

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This morning when I woke up the sun hit my face in a way that made me feel happy, glad to be alive. It’s not because I slept well. I woke up halfway through the night thinking for too long before I fell back asleep. And today is full and with no breaks. But still I feel good.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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