It’s a valid question—and one that even I, a therapist, found myself asking recently. After a week of using ChatGPT to untangle a few personal and professional knots, I caught myself wondering: Why bother going to therapy anymore?
Even change you’ve worked for, hoped for, planned for.
.. and change is usually good and always inevitable.
A coaching client of mine recently graduated from an MBA program and secured a top-notch job. But far from feeling on top of the world, he messaged to ask me why he felt so bad.
He was questioning himself. Had he soaked up all that college and grad school had to offer? Had he spent his time in New York wisely? Had he immersed himself in the city, living as a true ‘’New Yorker’’, or had he missed out on opportunities?
The one thing we can be certain of in life is that change is inevitable, but not always welcome. When I speak with new clients, significant change is almost always happening in their lives. It’s often the reason they connect with me.
Lately I have been using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), often referred to as “tapping”.
It is a form of counseling intervention that incorporates elements from various therapies including cognitive therapy, exposure therapy, and acupressure.
Jon comes into my office, clearly frazzled.
“No one appreciates me. I do everything for everyone else and no one cares.”
There’s an angry tone to his voice.
I’ve not written for a while. Like all of us trying to come up with different topics and angles for blog content, I’ve felt like I reached my limits for new ideas.
This week threw me for a loop though. A client who I’ve been working with for only a short time called to let me know how much the work we’ve been doing together has helped her. In my work I have to say that isn’t unusual to hear but I’ve seen a huge change in this particular client.
And this experience has finally inspired me to write again
Don’t let who you are stop you from being what you could be. -Jordan Peterson
It’s the little things that can make a big difference in preventing us from achieving our goals in life.
What is that little thing that you do that stops you from getting to where you want to be? For most of us, it’s more than one area that holds us back from fulfilling our potential.
How can you work on that today?
It’s become a predictable but all too common phenomenon: A beloved celebrity dies, and the social media blame games begin. As news of a celebrity death spreads across our screens, most people act, well, as decent human beings.
We experience the shared grief and sadness at a life lost too soon or celebrate a long life lived well. As the comments, tweets and remembrances roll in, most people express sadness, kindness, and loss with respect.
How do you feel when someone comes to you with pain…emotional or otherwise? What happens in your body? What do you want to do? What do you want to say?
Now picture when you are in pain…emotional or otherwise, what is that you want? What is it that you most want people to say or do?
While your initial instinct may be to say, “no”, take a moment to really think about it.
A really sweet male client came into my office a few months ago. For years he had been in bad relationships with women who didn’t treat him well. He was delighted to tell me that he had finally found a good match! But he had booked an appointment with me because he found he was picking fights with her. He was confused by his own behavior wondering why he was doing something that he ultimately felt was blocking his own happiness.