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Be More Codependant

Be More Codependant

February 10, 2021 Nicole Weiss , , No comments

There’s a certain type of client who comes to me with a very specific issue they wish to resolve.

Co-dependency.

The image these clients present to the world is a passive one, but that’s far from the truth. Their need to be less dependent is usually linked to just one person or one relationship but what surprises them is my response to their ‘problem’, which goes something like this:

“What I really want is for you to become dependent on way more people”.

This sounds at odds with our individualistic, egocentric culture but let’s take a walk back in time.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Honor the absent

Honor the absent

January 2, 2021 Nicole Weiss No comments

A few years ago I decided out of the blue while on vacation in Kauai that our whole family would attend an Ash Wednesday mass to mark the beginning of Lent. I knew it could go either way.  These services rely on a priest who understands how to gently hold everything together which isn’t always the reality.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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One of the reasons I haven’t written in a while is because I’ve been feeling the limitations of different ideas

One of the reasons I haven’t written in a while is because I’ve been feeling the limitations of different ideas

September 21, 2018 Nicole Weiss , No comments

I’ve not written for a while. Like all of us trying to come up with different topics and angles for blog content, I’ve felt like I reached my limits for new ideas.

This week threw me for a loop though. A client who I’ve been working with for only a short time called to let me know how much the work we’ve been doing together has helped her.  In my work I have to say that isn’t unusual to hear but I’ve seen a huge change in this particular client.

And this experience has finally inspired me to write again

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

Nicole WeissOne of the reasons I haven’t written in a while is because I’ve been feeling the limitations of different ideas
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New Year’s Resolution

New Year’s Resolution

January 3, 2018 Nicole Weiss , , 3 comments

Today, my daughter asked me what my New Year’s resolution was. I told her I would like to be calmer and truth be told this was a resolution that I made several times last year. In 2017 I was trying to be calmer, or to put it another way, clinically-manage my frustration tolerance better. I improved but not as much as I wanted to. I think the reason for my failure was that I hadn’t fully embraced why I lose my cool.I hadn’t fully accepted that I use frustration to avoid being direct.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Getting Out of Your Own Way

Getting Out of Your Own Way

December 6, 2017 Nicole Weiss , No comments

Don’t let who you are stop you from being what you could be. -Jordan Peterson

It’s the little things that can make a big difference in preventing us from achieving our goals in life.

What is that little thing that you do that stops you from getting to where you want to be? For most of us, it’s more than one area that holds us back from fulfilling our potential.

How can you work on that today?

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Acceptance (or the Art of Loving Our Imperfect Selves)

Acceptance (or the Art of Loving Our Imperfect Selves)

September 21, 2017 Nicole Weiss , No comments

All due respect to Elton John, but I’ve found acceptance—not ‘sorry’—seems to be the hardest word.

We crave it on an almost cellular level—in fact, our very existence was once tied to acceptance from our tribe. Today, we seek it all the wrong places from the size of our paycheck to our number of “likes” on Facebook. We search for it from strangers and spouses alike. We try to fill our acceptance vacuum with everything from boxed wine and Netflix to spin class and Xanax.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Sterile

Sterile

July 14, 2017 Nicole Weiss , No comments

It’s become a predictable but all too common phenomenon: A beloved celebrity dies, and the social media blame games begin. As news of a celebrity death spreads across our screens, most people act, well, as decent human beings.

We experience the shared grief and sadness at a life lost too soon or celebrate a long life lived well. As the comments, tweets and remembrances roll in, most people express sadness, kindness, and loss with respect.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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