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Today is the Day I Forgive Myself

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I will forgive myself for behaving badly in my 20’s while I was trying to figure out who I was. I wasn’t a big party person but I was a know it all.

I thought I understood boundaries and relationships but now I know that I was mostly being an asshole (and a teeny bit judgemental).  I forgive myself because at the time they were the best decisions I knew how to make.

I am not an asshole anymore and I have learned.  It’s time to forgive myself.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

Nicole WeissToday is the Day I Forgive Myself
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Who’s Knocking (The Classroom of My Mind)

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Many clients come into my office asking if it’s possible to remove troubling aspects of their personalities.  Often I might hear:

Can you help me to get rid of my anxiety?

Is it possible to completely eliminate my depression?

How exactly do I totally let go of my anger?

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

Nicole WeissWho’s Knocking (The Classroom of My Mind)
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Be Your Best You

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The phrase JUST BE YOURSELF has always confused me when it comes to relating to other people.  Obviously we all want to get along with others.  We want this because it just feels nice, and because relating well to others is correlated with all kinds of perks like better health, an increase in happiness and a longer life.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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“Success” is an odd thing to calculate, don’t you think?

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Recently I had to print out and LOOK AT financials from my practice. When I saw the numbers my heart sunk. I felt that I hadn’t done well last year. I felt that I had slacked. And that made me feel guilty.

Then I stopped myself from heading down this path and began talking to myself…(not aloud. well maybe aloud).  So this is how the self-analysis went down.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

Nicole Weiss“Success” is an odd thing to calculate, don’t you think?
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How to Help a Loved One Weather a Depressive Storm

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We all know someone who has been down.

When you get the call or arrive to see someone who is depressed it can feel overwhelming. You may want to help but you may not exactly know how. You may feel at a loss for words, unsure of what direction to take or feel downright helpless.  And as a therapist I have noticed that feeling helpless is one of the emotions that humans dislike most.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

Nicole WeissHow to Help a Loved One Weather a Depressive Storm
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What to do When Change Isn’t Happening (Otherwise known as contacting your inner rebel.)

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I work with bright clients. Most people that come to see me could pick up any number of self help books how to fix whatever issue they have. Yet sometimes all that knowledge doesn’t work. 

My clients already know all the current wisdom, like:

  1. When you are angry count to ten before speaking
  2. Keep a calorie counter and go to the gym before work
  3. Don’t drink when you feel sad as alcohol is a depressant
  4. Don’t text her if she/him hasn’t texted you back.
  5. Don’t argue when your heart is racing. It is a formula for a blow up.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

Nicole WeissWhat to do When Change Isn’t Happening (Otherwise known as contacting your inner rebel.)
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Go Ahead and Be Jealous

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A client came in and told me that she felt terrible. “Why?” I asked.

“Well, I was with a friend and she told me that she landed her dream job. Making four times as much as me. I wanted to be happy for her, but I just felt jealous. I felt like we weren’t in the same league. All I could think was that I could never have what she has.”

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

Nicole WeissGo Ahead and Be Jealous
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