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Do You Get Addicted to Your Bad Patterns?

Do You Get Addicted to Your Bad Patterns?

September 27, 2016 Nicole Weiss No comments

While your initial instinct may be to say, “no”, take a moment to really think about it.

A really sweet male client came into my office a few months ago.  For years he had been in bad relationships with women who didn’t treat him well. He was delighted to tell me that he had finally found a good match!  But he had booked an appointment with me because he found he was picking fights with her.  He was confused by his own behavior wondering why he was doing something that he ultimately felt was blocking his own happiness.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

Nicole WeissDo You Get Addicted to Your Bad Patterns?
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Grumpiness

Grumpiness

August 23, 2016 nw_admin No comments

Lately I have been struggling with a bit of grumpiness. 

It’s not out of control but it sits there under the surface, tugging at me.  You know…just a low level crankiness.  And with that crankiness I find that lately I am noticing everything that I DON’T LIKE.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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The Best Change Begins with Mistakes

The Best Change Begins with Mistakes

August 22, 2016 Nicole Weiss No comments

While I find this statement really annoying, looking back I can precisely recall the times where I have 

  1. Radically blown it
    And guess what?
  2. I learned. A TON.

This week has been a (freaking) week of lessons.. I wish lessons were best learned through those bursts of ideas that you get while driving, looking at a sunset or after a really great glass of cabernet. But NO. Most of the time they come from silly mistakes.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Get Used to People Liking YOU for YOU (and if they don’t let ‘em go)

Get Used to People Liking YOU for YOU (and if they don’t let ‘em go)

August 16, 2016 Nicole Weiss , , No comments

Do you struggle with intimacy? 

Do you wonder if someone is nuts because they seem to actually like YOU?

Do you find yourself in relationships where you feel undervalued?

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Where Do You Plug In?

Where Do You Plug In?

August 11, 2016 Nicole Weiss , , No comments

Over the past 15 years my views on what it means to “have issues” have changed. Sure there are people who have serious mental illnesses – and that absolutely cannot be minimized. It’s important to act quickly and thoroughly when someone has acute health issues. Yet I have come to realize that most of us are just dealing with the human condition.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

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Today is the Day I Forgive Myself

Today is the Day I Forgive Myself

August 11, 2016 Nicole Weiss , , No comments

I will forgive myself for behaving badly in my 20’s while I was trying to figure out who I was. I wasn’t a big party person but I was a know it all.

I thought I understood boundaries and relationships but now I know that I was mostly being an asshole (and a teeny bit judgemental).  I forgive myself because at the time they were the best decisions I knew how to make.

I am not an asshole anymore and I have learned.  It’s time to forgive myself.

Nicole C Weiss LCSW

Nicole WeissToday is the Day I Forgive Myself
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